How would you like to use the foundation of psychoeducation to re-evaluate the way you live your life?
How would you like to eliminate your negative thinking through cognitive restructuring while reading out loud?
How would you like to engage in smartyr self-hypnosis to reprogram your unconscious negative stored data?
How would you like to use a fail proof method to move out of victimhood and become smartyr?
How would you like a course of six hypnotic scripts to guide you to become smartyr while you remain awake and aware?
Through repetition and practice, positive and rational thoughts will naturally embed in your unconscious and you will become smartyr.
The thorough self-help guide Become Smartyr Not a Martyr aims to help people overcome their negative thought patterns using self-hypnosis.
Deborah Kerr & Riz Virdee’s book Become Smartyr Not a Martyr is a comprehensive guide to using self-hypnosis to shed negative thinking and replace it with positive mental messaging.
Asserting that too many contemporary people see themselves as victims who are never good enough, and who seldom get the promotions or accolades they deserve, this book stands against miserable mental feedback loops, suggesting resources that can lead to change. Regarding oneself as a martyr is self-fulfilling, it says; that viewpoint limits people’s opportunities, relationships, and lives. But everyone is said to have power over their lives; to assume it, the book suggests six self-hypnosis methods, to be used every day in order to reprogram negative attributes and embed positive messages into one’s subconscious.
Knowing that self-hypnosis is a daunting topic, the book contains multiple resources for those looking to try it out. Its structured organization divides content into useful sections that explain its singular concepts clearly, showing how to break free of limiting ideas through a series of short chapters. Tools including checklists, a road map, tables, graphics, and appendices also help to guide the work.
Evading clinical language and salesmanship, the book preferences straightforward and succinct prose, combined with careful explanations of why a person might feel the way that they do, what causes certain feelings, and what steps can be taken to improve each individual issue. The book’s playful tendencies extend beyond its title, permeating its tone and recommendations throughout. It is also empathetic and hopeful where it is appropriate to be so. This is a book seems to suggest that no struggles are insurmountable; it stands to be encouraging to those seeking help as a result of this mindset.
Though the book’s first half could stand on its own as a self-help guide, the self-hypnosis section is the real centerpiece of the book. Each of the six hypnosis passages includes a short explanation of the purpose of the hypnosis, a pre- and post-session checklist to gauge emotional state, the self-hypnosis script, and a post-session journaling exercise. The hypnosis sessions are direct, but also suggest that profound experiences are waiting in their idealization and self-reflection methods.
The thorough self-help guide Become Smartyr Not a Martyr aims to help people acknowledge their negative thought patterns and reprogram themselves with positive messages through hypnosis.
KATERIE PRIOR (September 28, 2021)
Of all the therapies currently practiced, hypnosis may be the one most shrouded in mystery and misconception. It often evokes the fear of losing control of one’s self. Deborah Kerr and Riz Virdee’s book lifts the hood on this technique – and in doing so, explains the process in a way that enlightens the subject while debunking some of its myths.
Kerr and Virdee are British psychotherapeutic counselors and trainers. Part of the appeal of self- initiated hypnosis, they note, is that the alternative can be so damning: Without conscious reprogramming, our minds can sentence us to lives whose functioning patterns impede self- growth.
The authors note that their approach is “grounded in evidence-based therapies” of transactional analysis (TA), rational/emotional/behavioral therapy (REBT), cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT). Hypnosis, they contend, “literally reprograms your mind and overwrites your ‘martyr mindset.’”
The book’s first part describes the self-defeating dynamics of this mindset. Subsequent pages show how practicing “smartyrdom”— their coined word for breaking the habits of martyrdom—can produce significant and sustainable personal power. Kerr and Virdee walk readers through a step- by-step process that includes reciting a self-hypnosis script which, with continual practice, helps readers identify, evaluate and change their negative thought patterns.
They also include a self-progress road map, checklists and pages for journal-making, as well as other references, such as Barbara Harris Whitfield’s “Victim to Survivor to Thriver” table. Readers will also find an FAQ section that addresses some commonly held fears about using hypnosis techniques.
In several different sections, the book repeats verbatim the self-hypnosis script and tips on how to
read that script aloud. It’s unclear why it’s necessary to repeat this information. Additionally, the authors acknowledge that not all readers will follow through with this journey of self-discovery, which can be lonely along the way.
That said, the book offers solid advice, and readers should feel some degree of solace and companionship with such engaging guides to shepherd them on their quests.
“Without mercy, the voice inside my head tells me, ‘nobody cares, and if I am to feel loved and valued, I must do whatever it is they want me to do. Then, I can tell myself, I am good, and I will be liked, and I will feel valued.’
However, the berating persists, living rent-free in my mind telling me, ‘however much I do, I’m not doing enough or making a big enough difference, and no-one values how much I am doing’.
Finally, left feeling unappreciated, I’m now overwhelmed, resentful, bitter and confused, I’m enraged. I scream inside myself, ‘it’s not fair! what about me! I hate you! Am I not worth something!?’
But this suffering is short-lived because feeling ashamed, and guilty for wanting something for myself, makes me appease and atone for feeling this way.
Once again, the internal distortions start all over. A new drama and voice inside, reminds me, again and again, ‘I’m the only one who can make things better!’ Worthy intentions spoiled, by its adversarial tone, spinning like a non-stop tumble dryer ruining everything and reinforcing the evidence that, ‘no one cares, I’m rubbish, I’m not good enough, and there must be something wrong with me’.”
“As a smartyr, I believe my purpose in life is for the development of more consciousness, freedom and order as I believe that is the fundamental expression of my creativity and an affirmation of my self-worth. I do not believe luck happens to me; instead, I believe in being the cause and creator of my life rather than the effect of it. I work on noticing chance opportunities to develop my skills that aid the free expression of my creativity.
Despite the ordinariness of life, I do not feel the need to chase anything as I already make an interesting life. I adopt a positive mentality and enjoy the rewards of my autonomy as I feel in control of my life. My smartyr Self feels successful as I make decisions based on listening to my intuition, and that restores my faith and trust in the world. I use my time effectively. I do not have a good day; I make an intention to have a good day, filling it with productivity, moving conscientiously towards reaching my goals. My aspirations and gratitude keep me busy, which provides a positive force in my life.
I view challenges as an opportunity for learning and growth as the true test of my resiliency is when life does not go my way. In such times when I experience feelings of sadness, anger and disappointment, I keep a good perspective with the flexibility for growth and wisdom. I focus on what I can do and am confident there are many solutions and possibilities for every problematic encounter.
I embrace people, new ideas and have practised the art of allowing others to support me with my achievements. However, having the wisdom to know my limitations signifies relief in me, and that hope still exists, because the difference lies in my motivation to know when to stop doing something. Understanding the difference between quitting and letting go, is, I quit when I stop giving my 100%, but when I let go, I know my 100% is not worth it.
Living blame-free, I am virtuous and diligent at being aspirational and inspirational as I take pleasure in seeing others grow. I naturally engage with people and enjoy the development of relationships and feel the value in providing attention to the plight of others with compassion and empathy.
I approach life through a perspective that ‘success is possible for all’. And I have the mastery to positively create making a person or group of people adopt a kindness and sensitivity to their needs and to the needs of others. Essentially, my mindset is that I deserve to be content in the spirit of harmony, and I feel rewarded, and experience a sense of belonging”.
How many of the following statements apply to you currently? Answer the questions below, and if you answer 'yes' to ten or more of the following statements, this book is for you